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Book Review: WHAT MADE THAT FEEL SO HARD? by Lauren Wells

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What Made That Feel SO Hard?

by Lauren Wells

Published: 2024

Summary:

In this book, Lauren Wells has taken her two previous books, The Grief Tower and Unstacking Your Grief Tower, and created a more in-depth version with guided questions and exercises. Her other two books were focused on TCKs specifically, but this book could be used by most people trying to understand the hardships of their past and how those hardships are affecting them now. I write “most” as a book should never replace therapy or counseling when it is needed – especially trauma-informed therapy. Lauren shares her own personal story throughout the book to highlight how to use The Grief Tower Model. She divided the book by giving a good portion to understanding the parts of The Grief Tower Model while offering exercises for a person to work through. The last couple of chapters are instructions on how to use it with other clients, with one chapter focused on working with children.

Recommendations:

I highly recommend this book to counselors who are working with people dealing with grief. It is a simple way for the clients to read a chapter and work through questions to process with someone else. I did do the exercises in the book and reflected on my own blocks. I was surprised how many blocks I had and the themes that seemed to come from the blocks. While Lauren did write it for individuals to use on their own, I would recommend talking with a trusted person who can help you process some of your findings. Friends are great, but in my personal opinion having a counselor bound by confidentiality laws is better for certain situations. And if you do find that some of your blocks are marked with trauma, then it is important to find a trauma-informed counselor to help you walk through it.

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Workshop Review: Unstacking Your Grief Tower 101

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Unstacking Your Grief Tower 101

Company: Unstacking Company

Instructor: Lauren Wells

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Grief is common to all humans. It is something we all experience at some point in our life. It does not matter if we are rich or poor, healthy or not, or what country or culture we come from. At some point in our life, we all will experience grief.

We often equate grief with death. And although death is a big season of grief, it is one of many reasons we experience grief. Grief comes because of loss. Of course, death is a significant loss – and so the grieving is deeper and harder. But grief also visits when a friend moves away, or we move, or when we lose a job, or [you fill in the blank].

This workshop is a course in grief processing. Specifically, Lauren instructs the viewer about her model of grief – The Grief Tower. I have reviewed two books that she wrote about the Grief Tower Model. (And she has a new book coming out in March that you can pre-order here). I have also reviewed the other video for someone who is in current grief. If you are currently going through something hard, I highly suggest you read my review and check out that 35-minute video to help you process that “block” on your grief tower.

If you do not know what a “block” is or what the Grief Tower Model is, AND you are not currently processing deep grief, then keep reading.

Unstacking Your Grief Tower 101 is a 60-minute workshop teaching the Grief Tower Model. Lauren takes you through the theory behind this. But she also guides you to process a less heavy block on your own grief tower. I found the step-by-step process easy to follow and a good way to practice using the model. This workshop will help you process for yourself and help someone else process their own block(s) as well. I appreciated this workshop because Lauren talked through visceral signs to look for in yourself or the person you are working with to know when to pause and take a break.

As always, Unstacking Company warns that this workshop should never take the place of therapy. Seek help from a counselor.*

*I am a short-term counselor if you do not know where to find one. Please reach out by email or go to my company’s website, Global Crossroads Consulting. I do offer a 30-minute free consultation.

Book Reviews: THE GRIEF TOWER & UNSTACKING YOUR GRIEF TOWER by Lauren Wells

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THE GRIEF TOWER: A practical guide to processing grief with third culture kids

Published: 2021

UNSTACKING YOUR GRIEF TOWER for adult third culture kids

Published: 2021

Both books were written by Lauren Wells.

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Summary:

Lauren Wells is the CEO of TCK Training and the Unstacking Company. The TCK life is an ampersand where life is both exciting and hard. As a TCK and working with a number of TCKs, she found that processing grief and loss was hard work. She also noticed a gap in the care for TCKs and started to fill that gap with her book, Raising up a Generation of Healthy Third Culture Kids. Soon after, she released her books based on the Grief Tower Model that she developed. This model is to help process grief and loss.

THE GRIEF TOWER

This book is only 84 pages long. The chapters are short and easy to read. It is the theory behind the Grief Tower Model. Lauren offers clear understanding with practical suggestions to help TCKs process their own grief and loss. I appreciate this book as it breaks up the ideas for younger and older TCKs and how to relate to each group. It is a good book if you are curious about a grief model that looks at the life of TCKs. But if you plan to use the model with others, I highly recommend taking one of TCK Training’s workshops on debriefs or transitions.

UNSTACKING YOUR GRIEF TOWER

This is a practical guide for adult third-culture kids (ATCK), not children. It complements the book THE GRIEF TOWER, but you would not necessarily need to read it first. Lauren spends time in the introduction explaining the whats and whys behind this model. Each chapter guides you in processing your grief tower by asking questions or providing activities to work through. It can be done individually, or it could be done in a group where individuals share and move along together. This would need to be a “safe” space with guided rules of conduct, but processing grief with others can be healing. The Unstacking Company also offers a guided video workshop called Unstacking Your Grief Tower 101 led by Lauren. They also offer a workshop Processing Current Grief. Both workshops can be found here.

Both books warn that they are for educational purposes and not to be a substitute for “professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.”

Book Review: RAISING UP A GENERATION OF HEALTHY THIRD CULTURE KIDS by Lauren Wells

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RAISING UP A GENERATION OF HEALTHY THIRD CULTURE KIDS

by Lauren Wells

Published: 2020

Genre: Nonfiction, Resource

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Review: 

Lauren Wells created a resource book for parents using her experience and knowledge of third-culture kids. This book takes what encompasses moving and living overseas for children and puts those ideas into a practical guide. Lauren deals with leaving well, unresolved grief, identity, restlessness, and trauma, to name a few of these ideas. 

My Thoughts: 

If you are moving to a country other than your own with kids, you should own this book. Lauren has some great ideas to consider as your children process the move. It is an excellent bridge to understanding the world that your children will experience. It helps you engage in meaningful conversations to help them navigate all the emotions and feelings that they may go through. For me personally, this book was not as helpful. My children were born in Asia and have never lived in their passport countries. I know that TCKs have many of the strengths and challenges others have, but many chapters deal with children leaving their passport country. So, I didn’t find all the chapters applicable to our situation. With that said, I am glad I bought the book because it is a good resource. It has caused me to ponder some of the issues and helped me to start conversations with my teenage TCKs.