Most everyone keeps track of their family tree, or at least they know the relatives on the branches near their own. When we need help with the kids or a listening ear, we push that speed dial number, which is usually the grandparents or the aunts/uncles. Having lived overseas for sometime now, our “family tree” has some branches that have been grafted into the trunk. These are people that have become our adopted family. They are people who have become the “aunts and uncles” to our kids. People that, no matter what, keep in touch even after they (or us) have left the country.
1. They help you move.
2. They bring you meals when your kids are sick (or when your sick).
3. They grab a coffee and sit at your table and listen to you. You sit at their table with coffee and listen to them.
4. They celebrate birthdays with you.
5. They celebrate holidays with you.
6. They watch your kids for you while you and the hubby go away.
I’ve been thinking about this for reasons #5 and #6.
My friends had to attend a conference for a week in a different country. They asked us to watch one of their sons. She needed her adopted family and I was glad to be her “sister”. She has helped me out countless times with my kiddos. We just do that.
And Thanksgiving is coming up. In two days. It’s been over 12 years now since I’ve celebrated Thanksgiving with my family back in the US. For my kids…never. Ouch, that was hard to type. We are celebrating, though, with friends ~ adopted family.
This Thanksgiving I am thankful for family.
Family that is in the US.
Family in Germany.
Adopted family all over the world, and especially those that are put in our path at this season of our life.
What are you thankful for? Do you have adopted family where you live?
This is one of the aspects of living in Tianjin (and Hong Kong) that I miss the most — I made such strong friendships! Here I rely on Aaron’s family so much, I don’t really need friends the way I used to. As a consequence, though, my friendships aren’t as deep. Sad…. 😦
Thanks for some good insights, Amy. Friendships are deep here and I really am very thankful for that. Thankful that you have such a great family near you, though. 😉
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Thanks, but please share because I’m sure you have much that I can learn from as well.
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